I Still Hate Mothers Day

Maybe not HATE.....but I still get weepy and emotional and sometimes grouchy when it rolls around. I just hate when this time of year comes along.

Of course, it's better than it USED to be!!! Oh, LORD have mercy, I remember that first Mother's Day without her. Hiding out at Kendra's house, so we could both avoid the day together.
Since her Mom died DAYS before mine, she and I were on the same "grief timetable". What a crappy year that was.

It's been a little over ten years since our mothers have passed. My friend is now blessed with hansome (albeit ornery...) young children of her own, so hopefully Mother's Day now has a more joyful feel in her life.
But I know she still grieves, as do I.

The thing about grief, there is NO timetable. People who have not faced a profound loss just DON'T GET IT!!!
Just because one year, five years, a decade may have passed does not mean you just "get over it".
Yes, in truth, it is easier now than those first few years. But it doesn't go AWAY, it just becomes a part of you that you learn to live with.

Somewhere around year five or six without her, I was at church (different church than Unidiversal...VERY different! LOL!) forcing myself to sit through the Mother's Day service.
I think it was the FIRST Mother's Day service I went to since she died. I figured that enough time had passed that SURELY I would be over the "weepiness" by NOW.
No such luck.
So, it's after church and I'm weepy, Travis is comforting me, and a friend from church asks what is wrong and appears to be sympathetic.
She asks how long it's been since I lost my Mom, and I tell her.

And she just looked at me stunned, kind of confused.
"Oh.....I thought with they way you were upset it happened recently".
Look, it FELT recent. And isn't 5 or 6 years recent when you talk about losing someone that had been there everyday for the previous 28 years???

Oddly, I've never had a problem with Father's Day. I guess since I never celebrated it, it never made much of a dent in my mind.
Father's Day, Flag Day, Presidents Day....big whoop.
I get more out of Groundhog Day!

And why can't pet parents celebrate Mother's Day? Let me tell ya, I love my furry kids, but they are WORK! I take care of them EVERYDAY...because I am their Mom. And I love them.
Actually, I bet Hallmark has a card for that by now....don't you think?

Celebrate tomarrow, enjoy your Mom if she is still on this earth....or if she's worth enjoying...I know some people were NOT blessed with good Moms.
Love you kids, furry and non-furry alike.

But I still hate Mother's Day.